1)
Write down precisely what you are saying to yourself
2) Make a note of how this self-talk makes you feel
3) Drop the label “negative” from your self-talk and
appraise it as valuable information
4) Ask yourself, “What beliefs are underlying my self-talk?”
5) As you begin to identify beliefs, you will begin to hear a
conversation between two inner voices; a "fearful disempowering
voice" and a "loving affirming voice"
6) This conversation between the “two voices” will
often identify other beliefs so continue to write down this valuable
information
7) Use this data to create Empowering Affirmations
8) Out of habit, the “old” self-talk may show up.
Use
Mental Principle #8 Cancel and Replace technique to interrupt
the old patterns and establish the new mindfully created Empowering
Affirmations
Example...
Step 1 – I write down precisely what I am saying to myself:
I
just can’t move forward in cultivating my coaching practice
Step
2 – This is how I am feeling as I hear this self-talk:
I
feel tight, foggy, tense, and tired, frustrated and sad
Step
3 – I mindfully drop the label “negative” from
my self-talk:
This
self-talk offers me an opportunity to gain volumes of valuable
information
Step
4 – What beliefs are underlying my self-talk?
I'm
not good enough
I don't know enough
Step
5 – I hear my fearful voice affirming:
I
might hurt someone
I may disappoint myself
What if I’m no good at this!?
I
hear my loving voice affirming:
I
do have many skills
I do have many resources, trusted associates, professional materials
etc.
I have a passion for people and love to support them
I will attract those who are ready to receive my support at
my present level of development
Supporting these people with enable me to gain experience and
become a better and better coach
My
fearful voice affirms:
Successes
may have backlashes
If I am successful I may lose friends, intimidate others, I
might be judged
Step
6 – I see how I am carrying other beliefs:
Success
means I may lose something
I am concerned with how others view me
My
loving voice affirms:
Many
people need and want what I have to offer
This is about a loving intention to share my gifts and skills
with others
I owe it to myself, and others, to have an experience
I want to move from “How am I doing?” to “How
can I help?”
Step
7 – Create Empowering Affirmations
I
am enjoying the process of building my coaching practice
My love and passion for people attracts me into action and attracts
people to me
Lives are enhanced as I apply my God given talents and bring
rich resources to my practice members
Step
8 – Cancel & Replace Techniques
Whenever
old self-talk shows up, I apply the Cancel
& Replace Technique. I interrupt the old self-talk and
replace it with my Empowering Affirmations.
I then redirect my attention back toward my loving and meaningful
intentions
Related
Material:
This material is covered
thoroughly in the teleclass Self-Talk
Mastery, New Beliefs - New Reality
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For
a greater understanding of “The Two Voices” read the
“Intentions” Article, “You’re
Not Going Crazy, You’re Just Waking Up.”
See
The
Top Ten Mental Principles for Evoking Your Greatness for more
on Intention, Awareness, Appraisal, Belief Expansion, Cancel &
Replace Techniques and more.
See
The
Power of Intention exercise to develop greater clarity of
intent.
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